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An interesting way to see how much confidence you have in your abilities is to ask yourself if you can be trusted with making a successful venture out of your life. Very often that involves standing outside of yourself and viewing yourself as somebody you know and evaluate yourself just like you would evaluate a friend's potential trustworthiness.

For instance, suppose that out of 50 people in a class ,you have to choose a teammate to execute a joint project. Each team member has some deliverables that must be done on time. This obviously involves a prior judgement of potential teammates based on their past records and their general attitude towards work and management of responsibilities allotted in a given time. A second order analysis involves how they might react under pressure cooker situations. i.e are they objective or are they prone to emotional outbursts. If ,based on the above two points of consideration , you zero in on somebody, it means that you trust them to work with them amiably and within the given time. Trust needs a starting point from where to build on.

Evidently, it is not enough for you to trust somebody. The person you have zeroed in on must also trust in you, and therefore must evaluate you based on the exact same parameters. Now consider the project of your life -- it is You, teaming up with Yourself. If You and Yourself were two different people, then You must trust Yourself and vice versa. Yourself trusts You, but does You trust Yourself - with all the characeristics of Yourself ? My point is this -- all that You has to do is ask if she can trust Yourself based on the aforementioned parameters of evaluation. If she can-- brilliant---you have a winner of a team! If she cant -- all is not lost, because Yourself resides within You and is hence changeable. Through a process of self inquiry, You can change about Yourself all the things that previously had You doubt Yourself's trustworthiness.

Now, to talk in more sensible language-- in order to trust yourself to make a success of your life all you have to do is evaluate yourself on those key points and see if you can see yourself through to the end of the tunnel.

Self evaluation is a great way to start the ball of success rolling. It also boosts your confidence in yourself, because now you know that you can handle whatever comes your way. In other words you trust yourself.

QED